There is so much to say about being in your twenties, there are so many guides, rules books, and posts on what you should be doing during your time. And may I say, all of which are conflicting, some people tell you to drop everything and travel and others tell you that this is the time to start your career, while your parents are pressuring you to start a family cause you ain’t getting any younger.
Your twenties are scary enough, you are transitioning into an adult, you have freedom and if your parents kick you to the curb ain’t no one feeling bad for your butt, cause you are twenty-something and an adult and should have your life relatively together.
So today’s post is going to be my take on how to make the most of your twenties and do it all. You have 10 years to do as much as you want or as little as you want and even if it feels like time to speeding by, you still have 10 years in your twenties. Also, you probably have another 60 years of life so don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get through it all.
5 Things People Tell You That You Should Be Doing in Your Twenties
After you done school (assuming you went to some post-grad program or did some self-learning) there are usually five common paths you might get:
- Build Your Career – Because if you don’t you would have just wasted your education and if you don’t start right now, you will be forever behind and never make it.
- Be “Selfish” – Because you should be able to do whatever you want with your time because it’s the only time you don’t have any “real” responsibilities, besides that huge looming student debt if you had it.
- Being a Grown Up – Because if you don’t start thinking about your future now, it’s only going to get hard are harder later on. You need to invest, buy a car and start saving for that down payment all the while paying off all your debts.
- Travel the World – Because you are only young once and when asked what is the one thing older people regret it is not traveling more when they are younger / not spending more time with loved ones.
- Start Your Family – Because if you want kids, an ideal time is to have them in your twenties. Society still frowns slightly on babies out of wedlock, even adopting is easier when you’re with a partner so you need to get married too.
But in all honestly, your twenties should only be about finding yourself, making mistakes and doing what’s right for you despite what everyone else says. Make as many mistakes as you possibly can, but learn from them, fail fast because despite not wanting to say this, I do think your twenties will shape your life, just like how your childhood, teens, thirties, and forties will shape your life.
How to Make The Most Out of Your Twenties
Here how to make the most of your twenties:
Step #1: Identify What You Want
This could be one thing that you really want to try or 20 things you want to try and accomplish. But step one is trying to identify everything you want to do, warning this could be the hardest step because what the eff are you going to do with your life, really.
Try and keep it light with a list of all the things you saw yourself doing when you were young and all the things you want to do now.
The only thing I really seeing you not being able to go back on is kids. So my advice would be if you wanted to try and have kids, save it to one of the last things you try if you are not 100% on it. You can quit pretty much everything else.
Step #2: Try it
Just do it, emerge yourself completely in it for a few weeks, months or years and give it your all and if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Don’t beat yourself up over it not panning out if you gave it 110% and if you didn’t give it 110% go back, try again and do it right.
Step #3: Move On & Try Something New
The quicker you try things, the quicker you will realize that maybe it’s not for you. I have tried pursuing a ton of different things including but not limited to:
- Wedding Planning
- Graphic Design
- Web Development
- Fashion Blogging
- Beauty Blogging
- The list goes on.
So try it, learn from it or love it, but if you don’t love it move on because you at least developed a new skill. Because I can proudly say:
- Pursuing Calligraphy now lets me create homemade cards on the fly if I ever forget to but one
- Wedding Planning, now lets me know all the details and do’s and don’t of a wedding
- Graphic Design, lets me create decent graphics and I know my way around Adobe Creative Suite
- Web Development, has helped not only in my career but troubleshooting my own issues
- Photography mean I left with awesome memories
- Fashion Blogging helped me with this blog
- Beauty Blogging, got me started all together
So yeah, I’ve learned and pursued many different ventures so far in my twenties, but all of my ventures taught me something and that is: To Keep Trying, cause eventually, something will stick.
How to Do it All in Your Twenties
Remember you have 10 years, you can very well do it all if you wanted the list above I went through in like a year or two at the most. I did all that between ages 22-24 so yea, you can do it all as long as you keep pursuing it all.
Make a Plan:
Let’s say you want to advance your career, travel the world and start a family before your thirty. This is how my plan would look like
- 22: Graduate
- 23-25: Find a local job, live at home or some super cheap place (if possible), and save as much $$$ as possible and sort out all your debts.
- 25-27: Get a job overseas in relations to your career so you can work and fund your travels around that area as much as you can not touching those earlier savings, and not feeling guilty about spending it.
- 27-29: Move to where you see home will be, start settling down, start looking homes, fall in love, get married if that’s your thing, start a family.
10 years is a long time, and if you aren’t reading this until later down in your twenties 8 years, 5 years and 3 years are all significant amounts of time to do things
Plan Around Your Plan
If your goal is to travel, then plan around that, how much money do you need to save? Do you want to exclusively be traveling and not working? Would working aboard in a place like Europe and traveling on weekends suffice? Can you pursue a work from anywhere type gig?
Ask questions, answer your questions and plan around your plan.
Execute Your Plan
Just do it, you created and crafted this amazing plan so just do it.